Mentally Strong DON’T’s
Amy Morin- Forbes Magazine 11-18-13
- Waste Time Feeling Sorry for Yourself. Mentally strong people don’t feel sorry for circumstances or dwell on mistreatment. They take responsibility for actions and outcomes, and understand life is not fair. They emerge from trials with self-awareness and gratitude for lessons learned and move on with life.
- Give Away Power. Avoid giving others power to make you feel bad or inferior. You control your actions and emotions and have strength to manage how you respond.
- Shy Away from Change- Embrace change and welcome challenge. Fear not the unknown, but fear complacency or being stagnant. Change and uncertainty energize a mentally strong person and brings out the best.
- Waste Energy on Things You Can’t Control. Don’t complain about things you can’t control. Recognize your response and attitude are what you can control and use that knowledge well.
- Worry About Pleasing Others. Don’t be a people pleaser. Be kind, fair, and unafraid to speak up even with the possibility someone will get upset.
- Fear taking Calculated Risks. Take risks understanding the facts before taking action.
- Dwell on the Past. Strength comes from experiences in the past, but not miring in disappointments or “glory days” gone by. The majority of energy is invested in an optimal present and future.
- Make the Same Mistakes Over and Over. Insanity is doing the same thing over and over while hoping for a different or better outcome than we’ve had before. A mentally strong person accepts full responsibility for behavior and learns from mistakes. Being self-reflective is an accurate and productive way to be spectacularly successful.
- Resent Other People’s Success. It takes strength of character to feel genuine joy and excitement for other people’s success. Mentally strong people don’t become jealous or resentful when others succeed. They take not what others do well and work hard for their own success without taking shortcuts.
- Give Up After Failure. Failure is a chance to improve by identifying efforts that resulted in failure. Mentally strong people learn from experience and work towards goals.
- Fear Alone Time. Mentally strong people enjoy and treasure alone time. They reflect and plan how to be productive and base happiness on themselves, not relying on others for moods and happiness.
- Feel the World Owes Them Anything. Mentally strong people enter the world prepared to work and succeed on their merits at every stage of the game.
- Expect Immediate Results. Whether a workout plan, nutritional regimen, starting a business, etc., mentally strong people are in it for the “long haul.” They know better than to expect immediate results. They apply their energy and time and celebrate each milestone and increment of success along the way. They have “staying power” and understand changes take time.